How to overcome anxiety and stress from love?
October 1st, 2009 | by Michael |
Misswillis asked:
I’m a teen.
I know at my age nothing in love is set in stone.
Nothing should be too serious.
I’ve been hurt by love many times.
I just feel serious stress to the point of being physically sick whenever I think about failed or future relationships.
Its to the point where I feel like I’m going crazy..being obsessive. I can’t even eat anymore without feeling sick about it.
EMERSON
I’m a teen.
I know at my age nothing in love is set in stone.
Nothing should be too serious.
I’ve been hurt by love many times.
I just feel serious stress to the point of being physically sick whenever I think about failed or future relationships.
Its to the point where I feel like I’m going crazy..being obsessive. I can’t even eat anymore without feeling sick about it.
EMERSON
5 Responses to “How to overcome anxiety and stress from love?”
By summerGirl on Oct 4, 2009 | Reply
mee too.
love *****.
By Psychologist In The House on Oct 5, 2009 | Reply
it will pass u r young n vibrant and life really hasnt ,well lets say you havent grown enough to overcome or know how to …it takes time and u have a lifetime so dont be n a hurry .it will come to u
By misterchipotle on Oct 6, 2009 | Reply
ok… here goes. heed my advice and save yourself a lot of pain. no matter how much you may like someone or feel you love them, do not give your heart to anyone until you are complete. by that, i mean happy in your own skin. you should be at a point in life where you make sound adult decisions with clarity and experience, and are confident in yourself. a man, or woman?, should never determine your self worth. alternatively, you should never give your love to someone who wasn’t himself self assured and happy with himself. now i’m not saying don’t date, nor am i saying don’t have a relationship, or ***. have all three, but don’t give your heart away until you know yourself and what you want in life. always remember to be realistic, there is no love at first sight and there is no one person for everybody. it is only when we stop expecting those things in life we think we deserve that we find what we truly need.
good luck.
By laraby9 on Oct 7, 2009 | Reply
Oh sweetie, I’m so sorry. If it makes you feel any better when I was a teen I had my heart severely broken, and I didn’t leave the house for 2 weeks, and basically just cried the whole time. I had thought I was going to marry him! (And no, he wasn’t the only guy to make me cry, just the one I cried the most over.)
Love even as a teenager can be very “deep,” so don’t undermine what you felt. Just accept it. It’s ok. Young love is very painful when/if it ends.
What I can tell you that hopefully will make you feel better, is that there REALLY is a great person out there for you. Trust me!
That guy who broke my heart turned out to be a huge loser in life, who went nowhere. Later on, I found the love of my life. And even though **I didn’t think it was possible** to love someone more than I had loved that guy who broke my heart, I am SHOCKED day after day by how much more I love the man I married. When I think about that other guy, I literally laugh. I’m serious!
I think you absolutely should get some counseling or therapy, though. I wish someone had told me to get counseling when I was grieving over my broken heart back then! Therapy will help you deal with all these emotions.
Also, I don’t know if you’re having *** with these guys or not, but I can tell you from personal experience, that for me at least, when I was a teenager and slept with someone, it made me so much more intertwined to them… but here’s the problem with that … guys at that age are usually not looking to be connected. Their hormones are talking. So when you sleep with someone it makes it so much more difficult to get over them. If you date, and then break up, no harm no foul. But when you sleep with a guy, you become way more vulnerable.
Looking back, I wish I had abstained more!!!
Try just dating. Or stay single for a while and do a little self-seeking to figure out what kind of a person you really want.
Also, just wanted to add, don’t EVER settle!!! The perfect one is out there (and by perfect, I mean perfect for you).
And, keep this in mind. You are better than all that pain. You don’t deserve to be in this much pain. So try to talk to yourself differently about the situation. If these guys hurt you, ***** them, because you don’t deserve to be hurt. You deserve to be put on a pedestal and loved unconditionally. If these guys failed so miserably at that, who wants them anyways?
Good luck!
By Adorable! on Oct 7, 2009 | Reply
: Thankfully, emotional debts don’t accrue interest in quite the same way as the financial kind. Otherwise, we would never be free. You are now a little too keenly conscious of what you are owed and what may be owing to you. Make fewer calculations. Be more relaxed. Just do what feels right in your heart and never mind what your head says. Allow someone else the freedom to do the same. Then, slowly, all that now seems so complicated and uncomfortable will resolve itself amicably and easily. :::::::::::: :::::::