i have anxiety and stress, i keep being nasty to him?
December 18th, 2009 | by Michael |
krissypoos asked:
i have been with my boyfriend for 1 and a half years now, when we first got together (as every one is i guess) we were really close, kissy, cuddly and could not be separated… in the last 3-4 months, i have been diagnosed with anxiety and stress. things are getting to me being at uni and people at my uni annoy me, but thats the only thing that annoys me the most. i see my boyfriend every weekend, i cant wait to see him when the week has finished of classes, it is something that i look forward too every time. but when i am with him, i can get annoyed with him.
i feel like that i am being too harsh towards him though. the things that we have done since we got together like:
-he will just randomly kiss or cuddle me, perhaps just hold me hand… it annoys me.
i do admit that i get stressed easily at the moment, and i am touchy and he know it and he says he is only trying to comfort…
i pull away and tell him to get off, and he backs away looking sad, i **** it… what can i do?
i have been on the pill for over a year, i’ve been fine with that…
MONTE
i have been with my boyfriend for 1 and a half years now, when we first got together (as every one is i guess) we were really close, kissy, cuddly and could not be separated… in the last 3-4 months, i have been diagnosed with anxiety and stress. things are getting to me being at uni and people at my uni annoy me, but thats the only thing that annoys me the most. i see my boyfriend every weekend, i cant wait to see him when the week has finished of classes, it is something that i look forward too every time. but when i am with him, i can get annoyed with him.
i feel like that i am being too harsh towards him though. the things that we have done since we got together like:
-he will just randomly kiss or cuddle me, perhaps just hold me hand… it annoys me.
i do admit that i get stressed easily at the moment, and i am touchy and he know it and he says he is only trying to comfort…
i pull away and tell him to get off, and he backs away looking sad, i **** it… what can i do?
i have been on the pill for over a year, i’ve been fine with that…
MONTE
2 Responses to “i have anxiety and stress, i keep being nasty to him?”
By Ambivalence on Dec 20, 2009 | Reply
What I try to do (and I think remember more often than not) when I am stressed by something that is totally not my husband’s fault in any way, is to make sure he knows I’m not upset with him. I might say, for instance, “I’m stressed out about my exam, and I feel like turning into a giant lizard and eating Tokyo, just so you know. I will study frantically now.”
Plus, keep working on trying to figure out what’s making you irritable like this and how to solve it.
p.s. You haven’t gone on the pill lately have you? Those things make me feel rabid.
Edited to add: I just thought of something else - for some reason, it helps me to use a calm, almost cheery voice when talking about my bad moods. It kinda helps me to separate my higher brain functions from the anger and grumpiness, so even though I still feel it, my thinking doesn’t get immersed in it.
By Fox on Dec 23, 2009 | Reply
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